Reach your weight goals in 2023 by unconditionally loving your health journey
Mama, I want to ask you a difficult question, and I want you to reflect on this question without beating yourself up! Do you love yourself so unconditionally that you want to make healthy decisions?
Before we dive more into that question, I want you to think of what unconditional love feels like. As a mama, it’s easy for me to look at my kids and understand what true unconditional love looks and feels like.
My son Eastin had a lot of health issues as an infant and toddler. One of the hardest things for me was that he was non-verbal for a long time. That lead to tantrums and crying and screaming any time I didn’t understand what he needed. It was exhausting to go through these tantrums.
But I loved my son and knew I would do whatever I could to help him, so I spent hours researching therapists and taking him to appointments. I would push back against the people who gave us mean looks. When doctors told us that he wasn’t ever going to change and that he would be disruptive in class and difficult forever, I walked out and found him new doctors and therapists who would believe in him.
We spent so much time working to help him communicate and be respectful. Now, no one would know that Eastin ever struggled. He’s a leader on his football and baseball teams. He behaves in class. He has big dreams and big goals. He cares so much about everyone he comes in contact with.
I fought for him because I had unconditional love for him. When it was difficult for me I kept going because I wanted the very best for my son.
Now that you can have that feeling in your heart, I want to go back to our question: Do you love yourself so unconditionally that you would do whatever it took to ensure your health and happiness?
It’s easy to feel unconditional love for other people, but so often we forget to have unconditional love for ourselves. This is especially true when you’re on a health and weight loss journey. But I want to show you how learning to love yourself unconditionally can help you reach your goals faster than you ever have!
Unconditional love doesn’t require perfection
How many times have you wanted to start a new diet or exercise program but told yourself you should wait until…
You could afford a gym membership
Got the perfect meal program
Didn’t have any events/trips/parties coming up.
Got rid of all the junk food.
Work wasn’t so stressful.
When you’re done having kids.
This is all conditional! When you’re not willing to pursue your health goals or improve your health because you don’t have the perfect conditions, is a way of telling yourself that you’re not worth feeling good now.
But unconditional love tells you that no matter the circumstances, you deserve to feel your best!
Think about if you applied this logic to your kids. What if you didn’t buy your kids new shoes because they were just going to grow out of them in a few months? You made them wear worn-out, tattered, tiny shoes until their feet stopped growing. Would that feel good for them? No! And you wouldn’t do that to your kids because you know that growing out of shoes is just something that comes with childhood.
Not having a gym membership, going to events, and having junk food in the house are all parts of life that aren’t going to go away. And if you wait for all the stars to align before you allow yourself to start a health or weight loss journey, you’re going to be waiting forever!
The purpose of a health journey isn’t to have perfect conditions so that you’re never tempted to fall off the wagon. The purpose is to learn how to make healthy decisions for yourself no matter the circumstances because you are worth those healthy decisions!
Results won’t keep you going - enjoying the journey will
Another mistake mamas fall into when they’re trying to lose weight or start healthy habits is not loving the journey unconditionally.
Most people start making healthy choices and expect to be happy once they get the results they’re looking for. They set a goal weight and believe that once they hit that weight, life will be everything they want it to be.
This dependence on results creates a conditional love. You end up unconsciously telling yourself that you’ll love yourself and your life when you see your goal weight on the scale.
But the scale fluctuates. Even for that girl who you want to look just like. Her weight is going to up and down every day depending on what she ate the day before, where she’s at on her cycle, how well she slept, how much water she drank, etc.
If you ride the results roller coaster, you’re never going to love yourself, or your life unconditionally.
Instead, you need to fall in love with the journey you’re on because healthy living doesn’t have a final destination! You don’t get to lose 20 lbs, go back to eating whatever you want and never moving your body and keep that 20 lbs off.
If you dread eating healthy food and despise working out, you’ll get stuck in the yo-yo dieting pattern forever and you’ll never be happy with yourself.
But, if you learn how to eat the food you love in a balanced way and you find ways to move your body that you love, you’ll become the happy, healthy person you’ve always wanted to be. And you’ll find that unconditional love that you’ve been searching for.
Macro tracking helped me find that balance in my life. I learned not just how to follow a diet, but how to eat for my body and my needs.
With macro tracking, I learned how to eat when I wanted to look good in a bikini. I learned how to eat during the holidays without feeling like I was missing out. I learned what foods make me feel good and what foods make me feel gross or sluggish.
As I navigated the journey towards health I saw my whole life improve. The life I dreamed of started to become a reality because I worked to enjoy the whole process instead of waiting on the results.
Unconditional love doesn’t mean you stay stuck and just accept life as it is. Unconditional love appreciates where you’re at now and work to become a better version of yourself tomorrow. Mama, you deserve to have that kind of love for yourself.
If you want to achieve your weight goals in 2023 in a way that won’t make you miserable along the way, let’s chat. Schedule a free discovery call with me and we can work out a game plan to help you become the best version of yourself next year.
