Create more self-trust and reach your health goals faster with this one shift

If you want to lose weight fast then you don’t need to waste any more time finding the “perfect diet” or spending hours at the gym. You just need to create more self-trust by changing your thoughts.

A lot of people lack self-trust. They set goals and hope and pray that they’ll reach them. But when it comes time to plan a healthy dinner, hit the gym or go to bed at a decent hour they lack the motivation to actually do the thing!

Every time you break a promise to yourself, you create a bigger gap between who you want to be and who you are. And as the broken promises add up you begin to tell yourself stories to make yourself feel better.

“I’m just incapable of losing weight.”
“I hate planning meals, it’s too restrictive.”

“I am not a gym/running/exercise person.”

“Tracking macros doesn’t work for me.”

These stories might help you feel better in the moment, but long term they’re keeping you from the life you really, really want!

On the surface, it might look like you can’t trust yourself to carry through with a goal or commitment, but there’s actually a deeper problem that we need to address: your thoughts.

Your thoughts cause your actions - or inactions

The reason you can’t seem to keep a promise to yourself is that you’re allowing your thoughts to run the show.

Before, we dive into how your thoughts cause your actions - or inactions - can you agree with me that your actions cause your results?

If you eat healthy and exercise, you’ll lose weight, or get stronger, or be healthier. Right? But then we need to examine what causes our actions, and I’m going to tell you the answer. Your thoughts!

You can’t take a single action in your life without having a thought about it first. Think about it, can you decide to eat a burger without first thinking about it? Your mouth can’t open without your brain telling it to, aka having a thought.

Let’s agree that your thoughts cause your actions.

For example, when your scheduled meal planning time hits, you have the possibility of two thoughts.

• “Ooo, it’s time to plan my meals. Let me grab my planner.”

• “Oh man, I really don’t want to do that.”

And then, you get to choose which thought to act out.

If you have the “Ooo, it’s time to plan my meals. Let me grab my planner.” thought, it’s obviously easier to get up, grab your planner and get to work planning your meals. Your mind is already in alignment with the action you need to take to get the result you want.

But what about when you have the, “Oh man, I really don’t want to do that.” thought? Do you let that thought run the show?

Most of us will. I know I’ve let that happen a million times. It’s so easy to let our thoughts get their way. You may not even realize that you have a choice between the two thoughts because we’ve become programmed to believe the first thought that pops into our heads.

However, thoughts can come from two different parts of the brain, which means there’s always another choice.

Thoughts that don’t align with our goals come from our primitive brain, or as I like to call it the toddler brain.

The toddler brain likes to do what’s fun or comfortable in the moment. Let’s say you were watching TV when it was time to meal plan, then your toddler brain is going to try to convince you to stay on the couch because watching TV is more fun and easier than meal planning. 

But your toddler brain doesn’t think about the consequences of her actions. She doesn’t think about the crazy week you have. She doesn’t think about how you’re going to be driving kids around all afternoon on Wednesday and if you don’t have a meal planned, it’s going to make your life much more difficult. According to your toddler brain, that’s someone else’s problem.

So when you act from your toddler brain’s thoughts, you’re going to have to pay for it later. And you usually pay for it with guilt, shame, regret and stress.

How to start creating new thoughts for more self-trust

To avoid all those feelings you need to learn how to create new thoughts that will help you take action when your first thoughts aren’t in alignment with the results you’re looking for.

The pre-frontal cortex is the part of the brain that is processes results and consequences. I like to call it the adult brain. It’s the responsible one who plays out different scenarios and uses logic instead of just acting on impulses.

When you have the, “Oh man, I really don’t want to do that,” thought, your adult brain can add on, “but I know that it will be so helpful to have meals planned out when things get hectic.” and then it tells you to get up and grab your planner.

If you want to build more trust in yourself, then you have to start paying attnetion to the thoughts you have and actively choose to move those toddler thoughts into adult thoughts. 

I know that it sounds so simple because you are an adult and you know how to weigh consequences, but you’d be surprised by the number of times your toddler brain wins.

This week, I want to challenge you to start paying attention to your thoughts and start recognizing when your toddler brain tries to run the show.

As you begin to become aware of your thoughts you can start taking more control over them.

If you’re at dinner and you’re enjoying a glass of wine and all of a sudden your toddler brain whispers, “let’s have five more!” you can recognize where that thought is coming from and analyze it.

Will six glasses of wine help you reach your goals? Ehhh, probably not. So speak to your toddler brain and tell her why you’re going to going to do that. 

And I mean, literally speak to her just like you would talk to your toddlers! “Hey, I get that you want to have some more wine. It’s fun and it tastes good. But we’re not going to do that today because it’s going to make us feel terrible tomorrow. So, let’s just enjoy this one glass and appreciate it.”

Sometimes it might feel good to write these thoughts down - writing them down always helps your toddler brain see reason. If you’re not in a place where you can write down the conversation you need to have with your toddler brain, then really do think about it and say it in your mind to her. 

Ultimately, the most important part is that you’re recognizing where your thoughts are coming from, and then deliberately making a choice.

As you become more deliberate in your thoughts, you open up yourself to so much more power! You’re no longer a victim of your mind, you’re making conscious decisions that build the life you want to live. 

And every time you choose to act on a thought that serves you, you build more trust in yourself. As you grow to trust yourself you have the power to accomplish any goal you set!

I always say weight loss is about the food, but it’s not really about the food. And as you learn to control your thoughts, you’ll see just how true that is. You can have the occasional Oreo and still lose weight because you don’t fall victim to your toddler brain telling you to eat ALL the Oreos.

If you’ve tried diet, after diet, after diet and still haven’t hit your goals or if you feel like you can’t make good decisions without being on a strict program, then we really need to chat. I help busy mamas learn how to control their thoughts so that they can reach their health and weight loss goals. If you want to finally get in control of your thoughts and health, then schedule a free discovery call!

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