The secret to becoming the healthy mama you committed to at the beginning of the year, even if you feel like you already failed

Nearly 80% of people admit to giving up on their New Year’s resolutions by February, are you in that group? If you set big goals to be healthier in 2022 but spent January struggling to keep that promise to yourself, you haven’t failed. Even if you threw in the towel and decided it was too hard weeks ago, you haven’t failed. You’re just missing the secret to becoming the healthy mama you’ve always wanted to be! But I’m going to share it with you.

People aren’t born being healthy or unhealthy. They aren’t born with extreme willpower or no willpower. We aren’t born with the desire to eat chips and salsa all day! However, over time we start to make choices that cause us to believe these things about ourselves.

If someone brings donuts into the office and your coworker walks past them without even a glance, then they must be a healthy person. While you must be unhealthy because you’ve already eaten two.

Eating a donut doesn’t make you unhealthy. And not eating one doesn’t make you healthy. The real problem comes from how you think and feel about yourself and your choices.

The secret to becoming the healthy mama you want to be is being aware of how you think about yourself in terms of healthy vs. unhealthy and shifting your identity so that your choices align with that identity.

How healthy and unhealthy people think about themselves and their food

There is a common misconception that healthy choices, especially choosing healthy foods, naturally come easier to healthy people. But let me tell you the truth, healthy people spend just as much time thinking about their food and their health as unhealthy people do. 

The difference is that healthy people have learned how to make their food choices work for them.

An unhealthy person thinks about food and lets those thoughts consume them until they make a decision that they’re unhappy with or that perpetuates an unhealthy lifestyle. Those thoughts and choices keep digging them deeper and deeper into the hole they’re dying to get out of. They begin to lose sight of the future they want and they give up on their dreams of a healthy life because they’re filled with negative thoughts - about food and themselves.

Whereas a healthy person thinks about food and how they can use it to pursue their goals. Their thoughts and choices are taking them towards the person that they want to be. They use the power of their thoughts to uplevel how they think and feel about themselves and food.

How you think about yourself, your food, your choices, is how you start to become the healthy person you want to be. It’s not about saying no to the donut and feeling deprived for the rest of your life. That’s not healthy! 

It’s about taking a second to ask yourself, “does this take me toward my goals or take me away from them?” and then making the decision that leads you to where you want to be.

Learning to be aware of your thoughts is one of the most valuable lessons I teach the Macros Made Easy Program. We begin to connect the person we are to the person we want to be by drawing awareness to our thoughts and how they cue the actions we take. 

Shift your identity to a healthy person to achieve your goals

Two key concepts shape our identity: how we label ourselves and the actions we take. Both of these concepts come from the book, Atomic Habits by James Clear.

In Atomic Habits, Clear gives the example of two people who are both quitting smoking. When the first person is offered a cigarette, he says, “No thanks, I’m trying to quit.” When the second person is offered a cigarette, he says, “No thanks, I’m not a smoker.”

There is a very small difference in the words both men used, but there is a huge difference in the mindsets of each of them.

The first is still thinking of himself as a smoker, but with a negative connotation because he needs to quit being who he is. 

The second no longer identifies as a smoker. He’s not better or worse for who he is. He’s just not a smoker.

One of the easiest ways to see changes in your health is to change how you identify yourself. Stop telling yourself and the world that you’re an unhealthy person. Start telling everyone - including YOU- that you’re a healthy person.

When you’re offered something that doesn’t keep you in alignment with your new identity, you don’t have to explain why you’re not doing it. You simply say that that’s not who you are. 

The second half of this new identity shift is that you need to start backing up your identity with your actions. Clear calls this “casting ballots.” If you want to start identifying as a healthy person, you need to “vote for” or “cast your ballot” as a healthy person does.

Healthy people make food choices that get them to their goals. 

For instance, healthy people eat protein at every meal, so you start making a plan to eat protein at every meal. Each time you have protein at a meal, you’ve just cast a ballot for your new identity.

As your actions connect with the new identity you start to see real change and progress.

Becoming the healthy mama you’ve always dreamed of is about the food, but it’s not really about the food. If you’ve only worked on dieting as a weight loss solution and you’ve failed at it over and over again then I want you to recognize that there’s a deeper problem. The way you think and feel about yourself isn’t aligning with the person you want to be.

The Macros Made Easy Program is the solution. I’ve combined mindset work with macro tracking so that together we can work through the mental and emotional blocks you have around yourself and your food. When we combine that with proper nutrition techniques, you’ll lose weight and love yourself through every step of the process.

Mama, don’t wait any longer to make this identity shift into the healthy woman you’re meant to be. Schedule a free discovery call today to get started right away.

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