Make this 1 simple change today to improve your body image without altering your diet or exercise

In 2020 we embraced dressing down and wearing only the comfiest of clothes. It was a magical time! But we also picked up a lot of unhealthy habits in 2020; habits that lead to weight gain. When we were wearing leggings, joggers and pajamas we didn’t notice the weight gain too much, but now that we’re attempting to put jeans, slacks and real clothes back on we’re feeling the cost of our athleisure wear lifestyle.

Our clothes don’t feel good anymore. Trying to shimmy into a pair of jeans feels like you’re wearing a neon sign that says “I gained weight.” So you avoid the jeans at all costs! You stay in that old t-shirt you got as a freebie from some random event and sweatpants that have been around since you were pregnant. You’re comfortable, but you don’t feel good about yourself. Annnd maybe that leads you to eat some of the feelings.

This is a vicious cycle! You want to feel confident and healthy. You want to love yourself! But anytime your try to get dressed you fall right back down the rabbit hole of self-disgust and frustration.

Let me tell you the simple change you can make to break this cycle: Get rid of what doesn’t fit and wear clothes that make you feel like the sexy mama that you are!!

Wear clothes that make you feel amazing

You’ve probably been told that what you wear doesn’t really matter and that you shouldn’t “judge a book by its cover.” Mama, I’m here to tell you that, that is wrong. You are judging YOU based on your exterior and the good news is that you are in total control of that.

What you wear is a direct expression of how you feel about yourself.

What you wear is important! It’s important because it changes how you feel about yourself! Think about it. 

When you throw on that shirt that’s two sizes too small do you walk around feeling like a boss or do you want to hide? On the flip side, when you put on that little black dress or those jeans that make your butt look phenomenal, how do you feel? Do you strut your stuff or hide in the corner?

The correlation between how we dress and how we feel is undeniable! So why do you keep putting on clothes that don’t make you feel amazing?

There are a million excuses, but the number one excuse is that nothing in the closet fits anymore. You had babies. You gained the Covid 20. You went back to work, are eating out and gained weight. 

One way or another your closet is outdated and you aren’t willing to update it. If feeling comfortable in your skin and loving yourself are important to you, then you need to express that by updating your closet.

You deserve to have clothes that fit your body right now.

Having an out-of-date closet isn’t going to do you any favors. In fact, wearing clothes that don’t fit you, especially if they’re too small, is an admission to anyone who sees you that you aren’t happy with yourself and that you’re taking it out on yourself.

Mama, it’s 100% OK to not be where you want to be. We’re all changing, evolving and growing, But it’s not OK to punish yourself and to be mean to yourself because you’re not where you want to be. Wearing clothes that don’t fit is mean. Stop it. Be nice to yourself.

You absolutely, 100% deserve to wear clothes that fit you right now. Even if you aren’t at your “ideal weight.” There is never a time in your life where you aren’t worthy of feeling beautiful. Show yourself that by wearing clothes that fit you right now!

You can make a change in how you feel about yourself right now. You can throw on an outfit that makes you feel beautiful right now! You can wash your face and do your makeup. You can do your hair. You can paint your nails. Shave your legs. You hold all the power in these areas. You can choose to show yourself love right now, by making your outer appearance match the inner goddess that you are!

The #1 relationship in your life has to be the one with yourself

If clothes are an outward expression of our relationship with ourselves, then let’s do more than just put a pretty face on the relationship. Let’s fix it.

I can tell you with 100% certainty that your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you’ll ever have. No one understands you, quite like you do. Scientifically speaking, they can’t! 

Part of our survival instincts includes the need to look out for ourselves first. We see life through a lens of “what would make my life better,” not “what would make everyone else’s lives better.” Because of that, your spouse, kids, parents, etc, can’t completely love you and fill your cup. Only you know what you need and you have to be able to give that love to yourself.

I encourage the mamas I coach to have internal pep talks with themselves. In these pep talks, you tell yourself that you are important. That you matter. That your needs are valid. Speaking to yourself like this will lead you to take action to care for yourself better.

How you think, feel and treat yourself trickles out into every single relationship you have. As you treat yourself better, you’ll set the expectation for how others should treat you. And only slightly more important than how you treat yourself, is showing your kids how they deserve to be treated.

As your kids watch you speak highly of yourself and prioritize your needs, they’ll learn that they have the power to love themselves. When they grow up, they won’t allow anyone to treat them like they wouldn’t treat themselves. That’s a powerful legacy to pass down.

How to build a loving relationship with yourself 

If you want to build a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, you need to allow your needs to take precedence! If you need new clothes, allow space in your budget for them! Don’t go and spend hundreds of dollars on crap for your kids and then say, “Woe is me! No one ever lets me buy new clothes.” Girl, you didn’t let yourself! You are a grown woman who makes her own decisions. Decide to put your needs first!!

Another common excuse I hear from women who are struggling to love themselves is that they’ll be happy once they hit some magical goal. For example, when they lose the baby weight, of when they hit some special number on the scale. 

What I’ve found as a weight loss coach is that I could widdle you down to your dream weight or even below and you’ll still be unhappy because you didn’t fix the relationship. If you want to be happy when you weigh 130 pounds, then you have to learn to love yourself at 180 pounds. Because you’re still going to be the same person no matter what the scale says.

The way we repair that relationship is by asking one simple question: “How is that working for me?” You can use this question to address how you eat, how you treat your spouse, how you talk to yourself, how you parent! If something isn’t working, then change it.

You hold the power the make the changes in your life. You hold the power to your happiness!

If you don’t know how to make the physical and mental changes to love yourself, then let me show you how.

In my Macros Made Easy program, we tackle how to change your nutrition to improve your physical health. Then we unravel the mental blocks around what food means to us, how we perceive our bodies and our self-worth, By combining the physical and mental aspects of health you will find true happiness that will bleed into every part of your life. Schedule a free discovery call today to get started.